Let me explain something to you. No, not to you, there. You're cool. You. Guy over there. The cis het white guy talking about how you grew up middle class, so no, you're totally not "privileged."
Yeah. You.
You asshole.
Let me explain something to you about the world: no one cares about you in the grand scheme, and you're going to have to accept that. No one cares about you, no one cares about me. No one cares about most of us. That's life. I understand that's a difficult concept for a narcissist, but try to swallow it.
Inserting yourself into other people's trauma doesn't elevate you. It doesn't make you more important. It doesn't somehow inflate your standing. You are not the arbiter of what happened to other people. You especially are not the final verdict on-- of course-- whether a woman who is the victim of sexual assault is actually a victim.
No one cares about your "standards" for sexual assault. They're not yours to decide. I don't give a fuck how much you "support and stand behind" a guy who's been accused by literally dozens of people of the same abhorrent behaviour over and over and over again, over the course of years. "I never heard any of that!" is not only a lie, it's also completely inconsequential. If nothing else, once the story breaks, once EVERYONE knows what happened, your claims of ignorance are self-serving at best, and morally abhorrent no matter what. Women were abused. Many of them. That's all you need to know. Full stop.
(Not to mention claiming ignorance after you've publicly stated that you demanded to know details of accusations WHEN THEY HAPPENED, as if it were somehow any business of yours whatsoever, makes your insistence laughable.)
If you go from the simple fact that women were assaulted-- and it is a fact, no matter how you try to spin it-- and decide that it's your place to white-knight the abuser, you've painted yourself with the same brush. You're perpetuating the myth that women lie as a matter of course about sexual abuse. You're re-victimising those women.
When you publish their names on a blog where you're actively seeking attention for yourself, and heavily imply that their pre-existing relationships with the abuser, or conflicts they may have had with him, are somehow extenuating circumstances, you become an abuser yourself.
No one should have to tell ANYONE that publishing the names of victims of sexual assault is wrong. That it's reprehensible.
You are not anyone's white knight.
You are a cis het white male with opinions on whether many, many women were abused.
And your opinion is irrelevant.
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